Seriously, would it have been so hard to explain how to change the video settings to allow the remote computer to do "as it likes"? There's no option called than and I have no idea where to look. Same with disabling AV.
Seriously, this is a user run forum, with volunteers who answer questions.
Seriously, being rude to people who answer questions for free is really bad form. (and it wasn't even your question initially...)
When I say let the video settings 'do as it likes', I mean don't go playing with any settings, just leave defaults (including let Aero be disabled).
When I talk about AV, I am using very standard internet terminology for Anti-Virus. When I say disable AV at one end or the other, I mean try turning your anti-virus software off at one end or the other to see if that makes a difference or not.
Really, honestly, I have no idea. I am just a normal user who hangs out and offers suggestions, as a volunteer.
You can try the official support links if you like, but the reason that this forum was started I'd guess, is that there is a perception that official support doesn't always answer in a timely manner...
Please be nice.